You’re Out Of My League!

Have you ever felt “out of someone’s league” or “below someone’s station”??? Isn’t that a crazy concept???? I mean, sure, if we’re talking about a 60-something house wife who has a thing for Tom Cruise ~ let’s be real, she’ll most likely never get that date! Or, if we’re talking about my friend’s boyfriend.........or ex-husband........or any of her ex’s! I guarantee they’re ALL not in my league! *shiver* I’d rather set myself on FIRE!

So, I suppose it’s not such a wacky or unreasonable concept. But, it’s how far do we tend to take it. When is it as reasonable as saying “Dude is hooked on crack and not worthy of me”?? Too often we spy someone beautiful and think they’re just not attainable for us. Why??? I had to put my own self in check recently and that bugs me! A guy I’ve been digging on (not the one I intend to ask out!) is one I’ve always said I’d never pursue. The reason is that I’ve never thought myself to be his type. Er, where did I get that???? Seriously, I have no idea! I mean, when I finally acknowledged this, I had to face that it comes down to the same as saying “I’m not good enough for him”. WHAT???? Not only is that SOOOO not like me, but I don’t know where the hell the idea came from in the first place!!! Not good enough??? That’s not coming from HIM, but from ME! And, furthermore, if he was the type to look for only perfection, I’d not be interested anyway!

Well, this internal conflict made me think of other people I’ve known who’ve felt this way. I’d always been the one to say it’s crazy. If you’re confident and make the effort, there’s no one out of your league! But, here I find myself saying it and am at a total loss why. Of course, realizing I’ve gone down this path I’d tried to lead others from has gotten that idea OUT of my head! But, where do we get it to begin with???? It can’t be totally blamed on the media, because we’re not that led by the nose! At some point in adulthood we come to realize our worth and discover there’s not much out of our reach. So, how is it that even those who know this truth can suddenly find themselves feeling unworthy anyway?????

Friday night’s have become a big tv night for me. Not only is there my newest obsession “Moonlight”, but I’m finally getting into “Numbers”. I’ve loved the concept from the start, but one thing I really appreciate is how the networks seem to finally be giving us women what we actually want! The men in the audience may not know what I’m talking about, but the women will! WOMEN LIKE SMART MEN! And, guys like the brainiac brother on “Numbers” for so long have been characterized as too nerdy for the pretty girls. SO not true! Smart IS sexy! I tell ya ~ I’ll take brains over Braun any day of the week and, someone THAT smart would be excellent! Let’s face it, a man’s supposed to have some upholstery on him and I don’t like the rippled effect anyway. So, a good, honest, smart man is and should be the most desirable! If you want to look at it from a genetic perspective, men tend to marry women who are predisposed to making healthy babies. It’s true! Take a good look at the woman the high school jock settled down with. What you’ll see are sturdy hips and frame. For women, we will most often decide on the man who will make the best provider for the “cubs”. Er, the smart one! We can’t help it. It’s as engrained into our DNA just like the drive to procreate a certain time each month. The difference is that it’s not as subconscious. It does seem to come with maturity, but even the young girls are starting to figure it out sooner! WE LIKE SMART!

You know, I’d actually feel more comfortable thinking that I’m not well enough suited for a college professor than to worry that I’m not pretty enough for some guy! It could be my age ~ which just will NOT STOP CLIMBING! But, even that seems silly since I’m pretty much the same idiot I was at 30. So, with that rational, it should be a no-brainer that I’m desirable as long as I believe I am.

League-shmeague! I want what I want and I’m gonna get it! Damnit! Hope you feel the same way!