Why is it so hard?

Why is it so hard to talk to others? As though there's a door that cannot be opened. Where can I find that key that will open the door of communication between us?

Caught a movie today - "I not stupid too". It's a local production, looking at some of the problems that parents bringing up teens faces. Such as should corporal punishment still be used in schools, why are some teens behaving badly in schools and why are teens so difficult to handle etc.

Through the movie, the director cum writer for this movie gave his view as to the difficulties that both child and parent face in communication, that it is actuallu only a one-sided affair. The parent keeps rattling on and on about what should be and no be, snapping back when the child tries to voice out. Hence communication has died... its no longer communication but nagging.

Have you praised anyone today? When did you last praise your child? These are some questions that the director posed to adults through the movie. And in answering these questions, hopefully the answer to the problem can be found.

Watching the movie, I agree with his view on why communication eventually die off - When the child first came to earth, he's growing up in a world that's full of love, encouragement and support. But as the child grows up, expectations set in. Where did these expectations come from? Its from the parents. Why are you so lazy? Why don't you clear up after dinner? Why can't you do such a simple sum? Why? Why? Why?

With expectations comes disappointment. With disappointment comes frsutration. With frustration comes anger. With anger comes violence. And violence begets more violence. And so, we slowly lose our child as the door to communication slowly closes.

Have you praised your child today? Have you communicated (and not talk to) your child today?