Why Can't He Just Love Me
Why can't he just love me? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and we have 3 beautiful kids together. My oldest boy is 4 years old my middle daughter will be 2 years old on November 1st and my youngest daughter will be 9 months old on October 17. There father means the world to me, every time I look at him or I think about him I get butterflies in my tummy just like I did when I first looked into his eyes. That feeling hasn't gone away it just gets stronger, I don't know what I would do without him or my babies, they are my heart. The only thing is why can't he just love me the same way, I feel like this is a one way relationship and that I am in it alone. He is great with my babies he is a great dad but I want him to be a great man to me. He spends so much of his time with his friend, he talks more to him then he does to me, I feel so left out. I want him to talk to me and spend time with me. What do I have to do to get his attention, he is my world and I love him, why can't he just love me.
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Vittoria Your Pain is evident
Sassys
But it is also very common, my advice to you for all it's worth, would be to do as he does...find a life outside your home and family...Now I am not saying you need to leave those you love...nope, what I am saying here is that you are to caught up in your feelings for him...that is not healthy for you and your relationship with him...Find yourself a couple of gal pals and have the best of both. Good luck:)
Sassy
Sassy, thank you so much, I will do that. I will let you know how it works out. Thanks again.
Vittoria
Oh you are welcome Vittoria
Sassys
I wish you luck with it...I know how it can be...once you start doing that HE will be the one wondering...and that my dear is where ya want him:)
I agree...
...with Sassy. If you focus your energy on a hobby or something, he will probably begin to wonder what's wrong. He'll probably come back. But if he doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. I don't mean to sound harsh but that's the way life is. Just remember, when one door closes, another opens. ;)
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Missmaster
Hi Missmaster,
Thank you, I will take yours and Sassys advise I will let you know how it works out. Thanks again.
Vittoria
the guy side chimes in
I hesitate to judge something as important as a relationship from a single paragraph on a blog. Too much I don't know and am unlikely to find out.
But it's conceivable that after six years and three kids and all the pressures and responsibilities of same, dude might be looking for companionship that doesn't gurgle, coo, need changing, need a ride to kindergarten, or nag about checks for unfun stuff like the rent/mortgage.
Lyric from a cheap rock song might fit here ...
Just hold on loosely, but don't let go
If you cling too tight babe, you're going to lose control.
Your baby needs someone to believe in,
And a whole lot of space to breathe in.
Great Peple
The comments I got are great, thank you to the 3 great people who left them. It is really nice to know that people care. Thank you.
Vittoria
You are welcome Vittoria.
That's what these places are for! At the end of the day I think O'Ceallaigh put it well. No-one knows your life better than you do and only you can make a decision that's right for you. You'll know when it's the right time to do the right thing. I'd encourage talking about it though, especially with your man. Let him know how you feel. In most cases, honesty really is the best policy. Relationships are tough, especially when there are kiddywinks involved.
Come here whenever you need to chat or whatever. There will always be help and support for you here. ;)
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Missmaster
Wow, you made me feel so much better. Thank you for taking the time to send me a message. I hope I can help you when you need someone to talk too.
Vittoria
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