What Part of "I'm Taking a Break" Do You Not Understand?
I'm supposed to be leaving in about an hour to go somewhere...and so really I should be in the shower. But instead, I'm here...
I just signed on to check my emails and Blogger Party of course. ;-) So I signed onto my MySpace account and opened up a message from this guy.
Now we met online a while back.. and have been emailing sporadically (at best) for a couple of months. I think we first met on one of those free online dating sites. (Yeah, I know.) Later we exchanged emails and MySpace addresses.
Anyway, I told him that I wasn't really into the online dating thing anymore... not really looking to meet anyone right... wanting to do my own thing for awhile.
But just yesterday he emailed me again and asked if I'd given more thought into "meeting him". So I wrote up a short and sweet email saying, "Maybe one day we could do lunch or something. But I don't want to give the wrong idea, because I'm really not looking to meet anyone new right now. Plus, I don't know if I'm really the kind of girl you're looking for."
His response?
"lol. whatever"
Nice, huh?
Did I say something wrong? Those were my true feelings. I DON'T want to go out with anybody new right now... and it's not that there's anything wrong with him. He seems intelligent, attractive and interesting... I just don't want to go out with ANYBODY.
Why is it that when I decide to take a break -- guys don't understand?
I don't know how long this "break" is going to be... but shouldn't I be able to say "I'm not dating right now" and have that be that... without having to explain my reasons over and over...?
Or maybe I'm wrong... maybe I should type something up and post it on my profile so that everyone who reads it will know.
Grrrr... ok, I'm done. More to come later....
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How does it work? I jumped to the top of the list in 5 minutes with about 10 reads. I think there's something wrong with that feature.... or maybe I just don't understand how it works...? I've always wondered...
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I jumped to the top of the list in 5 minutes with about 10 reads.
You posted just after the MPC engine "turned over". The engine collects read counts and ranks posts on the basis of those reads. About every 25 hours, the counter resets, starts over. If you post just at that time, you have a high probability of getting to the top of the board - and staying there 'cause everybody sees your blog on the list, says "this must be good", and gives it a hit. I'm sure the progression is greater than 24 hours (and it may be variable, not a fixed interval) so that scallawags like me :) don't always time our posts to coincide with the turnover.
Popularity of a post on BP seems to be a complex function of (a) whether it gets on the MPC board (which, as noted above, can be at least partially dependent on when you post), (b) whether it attracts comments (every comment counts as at least 2 hits), (c) how many "buddies" you have, (d) whether it shows up in the "related posts" column in other blogs within BP, (e) whether it shows up on other "read blog" places like Technorati or reddit, (f) the actual content of the post (shock horror) :P.
One thing I'm surprised others haven't noticed (or maybe they have and, unlike me, are being quiet about it): you get a hit when you read your own blog. If you find 6 typos in your blog and fix them one at a time (I've been stupid enough to do this), your blog suddenly has 13 hits! This is kinda misleading, and if hit hounds follow up on this ... :( I wonder if it is possible for the BP software to identify "self hits" and refuse to count them ...
Thanks for the info o ceallaigh!
That makes sense...although I'm not sure it was a great idea to let out that bit about viewing your own blog...;-)
I've noticed a jump in reads when I go back into my own blog to correct typos, too... and even wondered if I'd get in trouble for doing this... but what's a girl to do? I can't stand to see my own typos :(
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Read count
You're right. Editing a blog adds around five reads for some reason, and when you first post, it shows up as a read. I subtract that first read as well as however many times I answer a comment. The read count and the popular content list can both be a little deceptive.
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I am not sure how this work either. Somedays I will be at the top of the list all day long. My blog will have only 80 reads. Other days I will have 150+ reads and only be on it for a few hours. I thikn it's based on how many reads you get during a particular time frame, if that makes sence. Like, if people read your blog once a minute for an hour you will probably be higher up than someone who gets a read every five minutes. Then sometimes I have seen old blogs I have written appear.
My confession: I was super skeptical about bloggerparty so I created an excel spread sheet to track my reads. (Psycho)
I was actually really happy I did this. Every day I just start a new column. In it I put the number of reads for each blog I have written. Above it I track my Adsence earnings. The reason I am happy I did this is because I was able to find out what works (content wise) and what doesn't. A few of my old blogs still get 10 - 30 reads a day! While others are stuck at a total of 40 reads and sit there.
I'm not suggestiong everyone do this, but I think you'd be surprised. Did you know that three days after I signed up for Technorati I got almost 25 more reads per day? One blog even jumped 100 reads!
Just thought I'd share the info.
How do I sign up For Technorati?
please let me know. thanks...
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Signing up for Technorati
This link on Admin's blog will tell you how. Just follow technorati's instructions. It's easy.
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Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night. - Edgar Allan Poe
Excel Goddess...
I'm known as the Excel Goddess @ work, but had never thought to use Excel to track my blog's performance... wow!
Great info though... thanks for sharing :)
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Wow
You really are organised with this. The best I do is check my channels on Adsens, but your idea is good, though at the momen I'm overwhelmed with my other challenges.
See. Those are the types of
See. Those are the types of guys I am talking about. You would think at this point in life one would be able to deal with the opposite sex. If I am understanding this correctly, all you ever did is emal!! And not very often. Why would he do this?!
You got me...
All we've done is email and he's never really made an effort to "get to know me"... his emails are usually short and about him... so, I don't understand why he insists that I give him a chance.
After that email, he took me off his "friend's list" on MySpace... it's high school all over again!
Even when I'm NOT dating there's drama...
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haha
After that email, he took me off his "friend's list" on MySpace... it's high school all over again!
Ok im still new to this site so i couldn't/didn't figure out how to quote that line, but that line really did crack me up. Maybe it's because it's still early.
There's not much to really say..some guys just aren't capable of dealing in any social situations(not just females because chances are if he's acting like this online, he's a nut/dick in real life to people in general.)
In hindsight, you should probably be happy that a dude who can't read between the lines isn't in your life.
Drake Bobby
Thanks for your comment (how come i haven't seen you on here before?) :)
You're right... and his reaction to my email makes me VERY happy that he's not in my life...
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For whom the date tolls
In situations like this, I wonder if the person being pursued really matters at all. Isn't what's at stake mostly the ego of the pursuer?
Besides, doesn't practically all of our popular literature, from Will Shakespeare to Ambrose Bierce to Katharine Hepburn, tell us that "no" really means "I'm testing you to see how serious you are"? Wasn't that the whole idea of Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew? Beatrice saying "no" and Benedick (you better believe that 16th-century prolix penny-a-liner intended the pun) not taking "no" for an answer? And he did get the girl in the end. What she got in the end ... no, we won't go there.
You may just have to spell things out in words of one syllable. "My name's not Beatrice, and when I say "no" I mean "no". And after that, delete the guy's emails.
"I'm testing you to see how serious you are"
I think you may be right... you know how going through a bad dating experience or break-up can make you wary of getting into yet ANOTHER relationship? Well, that's me..
I say "I'm taking a break" to avoid getting involved with anyone too soon... but maybe, part of me wants a guy who "won't take no for an answer". Maybe...
Then there's the other side -- it's a lot easier to get things done when you're NOT involved or wrapped up in somebody else...
Love is just... too complicated for me to want to deal with right now. :(
In the meantime, I HAVE deleted that guy's emails... and don't really think I'll be hearing from him again. :)
American Idol Madness
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Didn't your mother ever tell you about frogs?
you know how going through a bad dating experience or break-up can make you wary of getting into yet ANOTHER relationship?
Ayup, I know. Though I keep hearing this old saw sing: "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince."
And then sometimes, old saws get fitted with new teeth:
FROG, n. Prince, incognito – and with the most compelling incentives for remaining that way.
- The New Millennium Devil's Dictionary
:)
No More Frogs...
I'm going to make some t-shirts with that slogan on them "No More Frogs!" and then wear them everywhere I go...
Oh well, maybe I'm just not ready to meet "the one" yet... maybe he's not ready to meet me... who knows?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts though :)
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Great guy...
"his emails are usually short and about him"
That actually made me laugh. I know "that guy," and, in fact, I think most of us do.
Back in my single days I was far from what you would call smooth (I know you are all shocked). I did, though, know that talking about me all the time was a bad bad bad way of getting a woman.
Later
"That guy"
I run across "that guy" quite a bit... I don't know what it is that makes a guy think that talking about himself non-stop will make a girl fall for him.
This guy only asked me ONCE what my interests were... I said reading... and he suggested we meet at a bookstore... um, yeah... THAT'S going to happen...
Not that a guy SHOULN'T talk about himself... but there should be a balance... at least, that's what I think. :)
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Hey!
I thought you were going to keep "us" quiet. So not cool to dis me and then rant about dising me. :/
Dale aka Maverick
If you had read my blog closely, you would've seen that I never gave your name...so good job letting the cat out of the bag on that one.
See? You missing details like that is why we're not going out in the first place...
;-)
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On second thought...
Dale, er, I mean Maverick...
I suppose that anyone reading the line "He seems intelligent, attractive and interesting..." would have no choice but to assume that I was speaking about you.
My bad :-/
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;-)