Sexy. Websters defines it as "exciting or intended to excite sexual dsire". Sounds rather clinical don't you thnk?

To me, sexy is many things in the opposite sex that grabs my attention and holds it with a two-ton weight strapped to my hormones. I could list the hundreds of little things that I feel are individually sexy but the truth is that it boils down to a simple formula: confidence+attitude+looks=sexy. That is the simplest way to break it down.

First look at the order. Looks hit last in my equation. Beauty is a wonderful thing but can deminsih quickly depending upon how a person carries themselves. I've seen some tremendously beautiful women that hang their head down and shuffle along because they were either ashamed of themselves or beaten down by some form of abuse. I hated it. Nothing sickens me more then seeing someone carry on like that. Makes me want to find the fool who weakened the women's spirit and weaken their head with a baseball bat. Confidence is so sexy. Just watching a woman who has that gleam in her eye, unafraid to say how she feels and bolding traveling into forbidden territories with such raw power sends little shivers down my spine. Believing in one's self is a wonderful gift and damned sexy.

Second is attitude. You can't have the right attitude without confidence. When a woman looks you in the eye to say how she feels, or wrinkles her nose after making an intended silly remark, just to see if you were paying attention, now that is sexy. Bold yet graceful mannerisms, a slink to the walk, the way her hips flick slightly at the end of each sway, these things come from confidence and carry an attitude that propels a woman into the bouderies of beautiful.

Lastly, we have looks. The old adage that beauty is only skin deep is reflected profoundly in the equation. As I have grown older, and more importantly grown up, I have seen woman through a wider pair of eyes. Woman who didn't possess the classic "tabloid" beauty brightened in my view. Maybe it was her eyes, how they widened as she mocked me. Or maybe it was the way her lips curled up on one side as she suppressed a smile. So many little things that went unnoticed have become highlighted in my eyes. My wife had many qualities that I must have seen but supressed do to my immaturity. How fortunate for me that I held on to her (or is it the other way around) and have continuely grown to find her all the more sexy as we grow together. After four children and fifteen years she is still one of the sexiest women I've ever known. How fortunate for me indeed.