theres no such thing as boyfriends and girlfriends, and there are no dates. there is only genuine courting, and there are only quality outings. if your single, your best bet is to stay off the shelf and dont do any shopping. improve yourself and find a path in your heart to follow with your life. the person you find on that path is more than likely ideal to passenger or drive the rest of the way with you. even soul mates cheat, lie, and mess up your credit, because contrary to popular belief perfection lies just on the other side of our 3 dimensions, and 5 senses. we have a measure of god in us that keeps us just sane enough to get through traffic and meetings without digging in our noses or yelling at other people (too much)but when it comes to being around new attractive people the curtain goes up for some reason, and sometimes the act continues for years simply because (folks like the role they've been offered.)the relationship usaully goes wrong in these scenarios because they finally introduce themelselves after a marriage, kids, ect...
women need to be allergic to the notion of ego-stroking and breastfeeding their better half/oldest child. men need to be allergic to the notion of their gonads being in someones purse for the final percentage of their lives.
if everything but love is a part of everybodies wedding plans then maybe the candy friendship pins werent so bad. dont let capitalism apply to your love affairs in the land of long wedding lists for short marriages. leave the list short so god can send angels to attend. dont plan these kinds of life altering situations to meticulously because life is what happens when you make plans.