marital problems

Marriage can be difficult for various reasons. Number one is probably selfishness, number two wrong expectations. They go hand in hand, really: people expect to get married and be made happy instead of doing their best to make the husband / wife happy. It's work, and a young couple in love rarely thinks of work – they think of happiness. This happiness is supposed to just happen, automatically, just because they are in love and they are going to be together, and it is supposed to last.

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Have any of you ever taken an ex boyfriend or ex husband back and had the relationship to work?

I've not had a large amount of boyfriends, but through the course of my life, I have had a few long term relationships. With one of my boyfriends, we would split up and it never failed that a few months later, he'd be begging me to take him back. I was very young at the time, maybe 20 or 21. So this pattern kept up for 2 years or so. But it never worked out. When I would take him back, it was the same thing all over again.

Now that I have age, wisdom, and a desire to live a Christian life, there is no way I would take an ex back. I realize that if it didn't work the first time, it never will. Past experience taught me that the person will end up doing the same things all over again.

In my mind, I would think that if someone made a mistake bad enough to cause a relationship to end, they would thank their lucky stars if they got a second chance. But in real life, it doesn't work out that way does it?

I guess all of us just have to live and learn.

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