confidence

Flirting is indeed an art form, and unfortunately, some girls and guys never become accomplished artists. “You either have it or not!" is often what you will hear guys saying when they talk about their latest conquests. If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting with other people.

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1) Buy the things you'll need like sunscreen or season passes to a theme park.Buy cool clothes and accessories that are 'in' this season so that you look totally stylish.If you're on a tight budget,then stay close to home.

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Have you ever felt “out of someone’s league” or “below someone’s station”??? Isn’t that a crazy concept???? I mean, sure, if we’re talking about a 60-something house wife who has a thing for Tom Cruise ~ let’s be real, she’ll most likely never get that date! Or, if we’re talking about my friend’s boyfriend.........or ex-husband........or any of her ex’s! I guarantee they’re ALL not in my league! *shiver* I’d rather set myself on FIRE!

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[b]One of the best ways to overcome fear is to learn about it, get knowledge about the thing that we fear. That will help in reducing the fear because once we have good knowledge about a particular thing, we become comfortable doing it and the fear begins to fade away.

Many people are afraid of public speaking because it involves a lot of skills like preparing a good speech, delivery of the speech, how to address the audience, body language, tone of voice etc. Since many people have not mastered these skills, public speaking involves a lot of uncertainties to them and they are afraid of walking up to the stage as they fear that they may make complete fools of themselves. One way to overcome this fear is to study in detail the various skills involved one by one, such as they should study about the basics of body language, how to maintain a confident and correct posture, they should study and master effective speech preparation and delivery. Once they master the various skills involved in public speaking, they will feel a lot more comfortable and eventually they fear is likely to vanish into the thin air. This is because they have step by step mastered and become comfortable with various small skills that are needed for giving a good speech or presentation on stage. They have divided the task of public speaking into smaller pieces, then studied and mastered each piece until they became perfect in it or atleast became a lot comfortable in it.

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What really is perfection? Is it something that one can attain? According to http://wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=perfection perfection is the state of being without a flaw or defect. Many of us strive for it, often suffering in the process because of our personal inability to achieve it. The fact is, although our perception of perfection is different from each other, what seems to be the common denominator is that it is something external that we need in order to make us feel whole, make us complete, and make us feel happy. Wow! Reality cannot be further from the truth. We want the perfect body, the perfect husband or wife, perfect children, the perfect job, the perfect house, car and the list goes on and on and on. We constantly make improvements on everything, ourselves, our belongings and even our family, but to no avail. We end up being in conflict because we are never satisfied. We never seem to gratify our idea of perfection. Now don’t get me wrong. I believe that we must always strive to be our best and motivate other persons to be their best. The problem arises when we are not satisfied with our best at the moment and when we criticize other persons for not living up to our personal ideal. Unfortunately we end up fussing and fighting because what we want is not happening, or so it seems. We use the external as a ruler to measure ourselves and for some reason, we oh so love to compare ourselves with others. Oh yes, we struggle daily to attain the greener grass that we think we see on the other side. And then when we perceive that nothing is happening and even when we think that we have what we need, we find it strange that we do not experience this bliss, this feeling of happiness, fulfillment and completeness. We then begin to feel that something is wrong with us, our self-esteem is shattered, we feel sad, depressed, frustrated and overwhelmed. Please, don’t feel dismayed. When this feeling comes up, it is very important that persons realize that the only thing that can make us feel whole and complete is really ourselves. No one else but us. Yes, no one else but you. Your mind is extraordinary and by just changing your perception of yourself and accepting you just as you are, you will feel a weight just fall off your shoulders. Consider yourself perfect in all your imperfection, consider your family perfect in all their imperfections and just by this shift in your train of thought, you would realize that everything that is meant to be is indeed perfection. It is perfection because it is meant to be. You are where you are supposed to be right now. Accept it lovingly and look forward to the daily lessons you are supposed to learn. That in essence is perfection. Look in your mirror everyday and tell yourself “I love and accept myself just the way I am; I am perfect in all my imperfections�?. Try it, and then tell me about it.

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