Sneaking Expectations

For some time now I have been listening to myself and my friends talk about our significant others using harsh criticisms and reaching brash conclusions about what it is that they really care about.These words carry the sting of resentment. Resentment that can only come from our unfulfilled expectations.My husband is always telling me not to have expectations; that they only get you into troule. Depending on where you sit, the person actually getting into trouble changes. My husband has been getting into a lot of trouble lately for saying the wrong thing, not knowing the right thing to say, and really having no clue what I am talking about nor the ability to relate on any kind of an emotional level. Sounds pretty unfair right? Well it is, and I am happy to say that I am ready to change my evil expectant ways and just accept. In a way, I am grieving right now for the relationship that I thought I had, that I expected to get, and that I now realize was true only in that beautiful haze that filters everything we see and do and allows us to fall in love. I wanted so much when I first met and fell in love with my husband that a whole world of wanting was created within me and every kiss that he bestowed was like a promise to fulfill my every want and need. Sigh. I am such a fairy tale girl at heart with a pessimists hard shell to protect it. It is time to wake up from the fairy tale and realize that even though I have not gotten everything I wanted, I have love and at the base of everything, what is life without love? It is so competely unrealistic to expect that the person we fall in love with should act a certain way, feel a certain way, respond to our needs in a certain way. All of that will only lead to disappointment and resentment which nobody should have to bear the weight of. Accept, trust, and have faith in love, that's my plan.