Sex Offenders Are Victims Too

deorre's picture
sex offender | victim

The Andrea Yates, 'not guilty by reason of insanity' retrial has got me to thinking. I know, I know...always a dangerous thing. Yet, sometimes I just can't help myself.

I can accept the new verdict, yet I fear it may lead to a very dangerous person having a chance to act out her dangerousness again. Once she is, uh, 'cured'. I mean, at some point, when she has been in treatment for quite a long time I'm sure, she will likely be deemed 'safe' to live outside of the confines of whatever institution she finds herself. When that day arrives--and it will--I hope safeguards are set up that not only 'encourage' responsible participation in an overall outpatient psychiatric regimen, but mandate such.

I wonder why the sex offenders I work with do not meet the same compassion that Ms. Yates got in her retrial. A good 90% of the guys I see were victimized by a sexual predator when they were younger. Somehow violated their boundaries such that trauma and hardwiring have cemented into what they are today. Victims, through this lens. And, as Ms. Yates was acting out her unsolicited mental illness, so too these sex offenders. Acting out their unsolicited victimization.

With the creation of a relapse prevention plan, most of these guys do not re-offend. Treatment and psychotherapy may help, but it is the pragmatic awareness of potential danger and how to avoid such that renders these fellows ready to re-engage in society. That is if one believes that they are re-engageable. Obviously, many people do not believe this.

Ms. Yates got what many sex offenders got her first time around in the courts. Big press and sensationalism, and a guilty verdict. With some time and collective calming down, a touch of compasion set in. And, the NGI verdict.

I wonder if sex offenders, most who are not the predatory serial perpetrators that they are sensationalized to be, will ever see such compassion.

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travistemple202020's picture

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my cousin is in prison for touching a little girl and i hate him for doing it yet as a family member i feel for him because his father also did bad things like that not going into detail but its hard to feel and yet not want to at the same time he got what he deserved but then i wonder when he gets out if he will again i wish he would have killed someone because it would be easier to understand and i want to understand why he did it but then i cant have those things in my mind its a very hard subject to deal with but i wanted to comment on it

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Difficult Issues, Travistemple...

Perhaps your cousin will get counseling in and out of prison. Equally important will be for him to develop a plan as to just how he will not re-offend. Not unlike an addict creating his pr her own relapse prevention plan.

You have some mixed feelings about the whole thing too. You are what some in the biz would call a secondary victim to your cousins' actions.

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