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The only way I would even dream of him ever living in the same house with that little girl again would be if he wore a non-removable ankle bracelet that screamed a warning if he got within 10 feet of her. The case doesn't surprise me, though. I'm sure, with all the sexually explicit programs being shown during the "family" hours on TV, we will be hearing more and more of this kind of thing. Where were the parents, I would like to know. Where did this boy get his hands on porn in the first place? And why were they alone long enough for this to happen?

Should a sex offender be allowed to return to live with his victim? Hmmmmm...I don't think this is even a debate. Oral sex is considered "sex", which could be considerd "rape". I don't think it's make for a healthy living situation.

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A 13 y/o perp and a 6y/o victim/sister. The social service system from their county want to reunite the family. I initially said that can't possibly be--victim and perp living in same house?!?! But indeed, that is the 'hope'.

It is in the name of family reunification. As far as I can see, nobody has consulted the victims' therapist, so I have recommended bringing that person on board.

We shall see.

deorre

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i cant believe that it is even an option for the family to be re-unified. the 13 year old should be sent off to be treated until adulthood.....or the 6 year old placed with other family members. ultimately, it is going to never be a heealthy life for either of the kids, but i cant imagine how awful it would be for the little girl to be in the same living space with the person who raped her.

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So the reason that reunifying the family is probably being considered an option, is because the children are very young. Six is not old enough to have a perfectly clear understanding of what was going on-- but 13 is.
I'd say it was rape. The damage is done. The unthinkable has happened.
Let me just say this-- I understand the goal of reunification. And with what I have seen of families with sexual abuse, sometimes the relationships can be repaired. It would depend on the family. As a caseworker, one can only know the family so well.
But healing for the individual probably isn't something that the state can manufacture. The state doesn't have miracles. The state has laws. I think that one could look into what laws have been broken, and what the penalties are. Clemency seems like a questionable idea, since the boy was clearly old enough to understand what he was doing.
I guess, from my experience and vicarious experience, it's not that I think that all is lost for the family and even for the perpetrator, but I do think that the state has a responsibility to uphold the laws that it has passed.

I know that there is no way in hell-o-ise that this would happen but if I were calling the play Mr. Oral Sodomy would have his little "Mister" layed out, all nice and straightened out on a section of tempered steel and then a duly-appointed "punisher" would go to work flattening the little "Mister" with a 2lb sledge- How much offending could this teen monster accomplish with a peepee that looks like a ribbon of beef jerky...ahhhh, to dream a little dream!

Kiz

nothing wrong with any hot,steaming,smelly and fetid fluid filled vat for the likes of this kiddo...I always been one for the "if you do the crime, you do the time" bus-ride,if you will...what is the tragedy of course is that the little girl has been robbed of something she never had a chance to grab hold of and dance with, and I'm talking of just being allowed to be a little girl. I'll say a prayer for her and him, they'll just be different prayers.
BTW-I got all manners of talking this way and that!;)

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I'm kind of interested (and impressed) with the fact that this situation led to the boy's arrest. Who told the authorities?

I'm sort of divided on this. I can somewhat understand how the boy may have not associated this situation with rape because in our society, oral sex is often not considered sex (especially by the young). Plus his sister did not resist (which of course doesn't mean it wasn't rape - but because she agreed at his age he may not have seen it this way). I can see how this could have been the case of very misguided curiousity (or, perhaps not).

I guess I would think that extensive counseling should occur for both children and the parents before anyone could really make a determination about what is safe in this situation. I hate to think that the poor six-year-old could be removed from her family and sent to live elsewhere. That could be viewed as a punishment to her, and how unfair is that?

What a mess...

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First to her mother, who did nothing. Then to the school authority. They reported it to the po po.

She won't be punished by being removed from the home, unless it is determined that the mother cannot provide a safe home for her.

The boy seems pretty clueless, though that could be a cover. I don't think so , though. He needs fome serious counseling and educating.

deorre

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Remarkably, nobody...even the victims' social worker, were working together. Thusly, the potential for inadvertant exposure of the victim to the perp. way likely.

Thankfully, once I pointed all this out, players had an 'aha' moment. Now, there will be much more scrutiny.

I wonder how often this stuff goes on.

deorre

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