One would think with all the challenges that we face in just trying to survive, that we'd at least be able to communicate effortlessly with the one we love. Why is it in the early stages of a relationship that we appear flawless in the eyes of love? The old adage "love is blind" once again rears its little deceitful smile, only to be tossed out of the moment as soon as the timely union reaches three months. It's true. At three months a silent whistle goes off in the relationship and like a pistol being fired at the starting line of a Nascar event...we're off and running! The curious thing is, we don't seem to be able to avoid the inevitable relationship rat race. Why is that?

This is the norm. However, should we ever decide to step out of the rat race where one ducks and dodges their partner and into the fast lane where a couple glides alongside one another, we first need to master the Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking. Aside from being a book of hidden knowledge, the actual wisdom serves many useful purposes. Matchmaking isn't just about finding the perfect mate but instead it's about learning how the laws of nature work with us and for us.

Let's take me for example. I had been married for 20 years and divorced. After three years of dating rather unsuccessfully, I began investigating ways to stay safe and sane in the world of being single. Men were clearly different from what I had remembered as a teenager and I really wasn't all that excited about the choices available. It felt like society had really dealt them some horrible experiences and many were still suffering the slings and arrows of their past.

Fortunately, I began finding ways of expanding my own awareness by first concentrating on things outside of myself. These usually look like volunteering for an altruistic effort or creating something that makes a difference for someone other than one's self. Mine was about working with ARC and creating a publishing company that had heart. This brought all kinds of opportunity my way. I met brilliant artists and writers that had wonderful bodies of information some of which inspired me to investigate further.

As a part of my research I began testing the knowledge and discovered that each of us is very unique and deserves to be seen. I chose to look at others like automobiles. Each possessed the ability to perform at different levels. Some were more refined than others but all were equally valuable to the whole experience of life. I found that I wasn't very attracted to trucks, loved corvettes but felt more at home with a BMW 4-door sedan. My girlfriend on the other hand loves trucks and wouldn't been seen dead in a BMW.

We all possess many aspects and need to honor the intricacies of who we are rather than trying to change each other. Learning about these intricacies is what the Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking is all about. It's based on a body of wisdom called The Knowledge of Y.O.U.

The YOU stands for your own understanding. All of the great minds in history have had this knowledge. Check out the book by visiting any online bookstore. Just request "The Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking" by yours truly Zannah Hackett. It worked for me...It'll work for you.