People Cheat Because They Are Scum-Sucking Low Life Losers!

Hmmnn.. I was hoping to approach this topic objectively after seeing it raised in someone else's blog but now that I look back at my title I'm thinking maybe I failed.

Well, with all due respect to the blogger who tried to ratioionalize the psychology of cheating, I don't have much use for any viewpoint that tries to justify cheating by explaining it as being the result of emotional neglect or one partner's desires being left unfufilled in bed.

Cheating is trying to have your cake and eat it too. I am by no means suggesting that anyone stay unsatisfied in a bad or unhealthy relationship. Forget about your new love interest and fight to preserve the relationship in which you have already invested so much time and energy. Let your partner know what your issues are. Seek help through counselling, therapy or mediation but do not take the coward's way out! If it is clear that no amount of effort will help the two of you to reconcile your differences, then start the process of separation. The yellow pages are full of lawyers who will willingly help you along!

Do not delude yourself by thinking that it is necessary to stay together for the children's benefit. Your children will be much better off with two parents who are happily separated rather than miserable together. There really is no reason to cheat which is to completely disregard the extraordinary amount of damage infidelity can cause. Sooner or later the truth will come out. It is much better to make a clean break for the right reasons and then start exploring other options...