Are You A Woman Or Are You A Burden?

See Part One Here.

Now on the other foot what has happened to setting punishments and guidelines for children? The law of the land does not mean its children well.I mean that. I really do.
I've blogged about my Sister and the fact that she reported my mother for child abuse when in fact my mother didn't do a thing.
She did it on the advice of her therapist's boss who was at their group therapy session. The woman had an issue with my mother punishing my sister for nearly burning down our next door neighbour's house. You know when she spoke to my mom, she told her that instead of punishing my sister, she should have called the police and had her arrested for arson.
So let me get this straight, in this day and age where judges have decided for the good of the children to charge fourteen year olds as adults, and are sentencing children to 20 and 30 year sentences, we should have had her arrested and put away and ruined her life, instead of disciplining her in our home, which gives her the ability to move on and become a productive member of society entering both high school and college and fulfilling her dream of becoming either a book store owner or a truck driver? COME ON!
A child is a child. I am 21. I am still my mother's child. After some time she can stop directing my life, but there are certain things she can ask me to do while living under her roof that I should snap to!
My sister at thirteen is not working.She's not paying a bill. She's not dressing or feeding herself. She is depending on someone else. As such, it is not too much to ask her to clean her bed, to clean her room, to hang up her clothes or to sweep.
I've grown up doing that and I never felt like it was too much to ask. As a matter of fact, I'm going to move out eventually and I will know how to clean a house, wash my clothes, cook and iron and a thousand little things I've learned from doing chores.
We're not asking her to cook or clean. My grandmother washes and irons her clothes even though in our culture my sister should stop doing that. Is it really so hard of us to ask her to take care of herself? She wants to leave eventually. My mother is equipping her with skills to make her a functional adult. That's not unfair of her to do.
Parents are forgetting that we all have jobs to do. Their job is to be a parent. Their child's job is to be a child. A two year old cannot make a reasonable judgement concerning their safety and well being. Neither can a ten year old. Believe it or not, neither can ALL teenagers. Some whose parents remember their jobs are equipped to handle some situations..but there are kids who come to their parents seeking advice and understanding.
You are asking your kids to tell you what they think they should eat, and wear and what rights they should be allowed. It doesn't fly that way.Which one of you have entered a job and told your boss what you'd like to earn, where your office is going to be and how long you should work..and what kind of work you should be assigned? You can tell them what you like, but in the end they are going to give you what they think you should have.
We're not raising kids to be any sort of people. You're just letting them run rough shod over you and that's not right. It doesn't matter what the law says about you grounding or punishing your child as you see fit. The LAW is the ONE on your BACK when YOUR CHILD messes up! They don't ask the child where they went wrong. They come to YOU the PARENT and TELL YOU where YOU not the CHILD went wrong! So what the police say or do is of NO EFFECT when YOU are PUNISHED for YOUR CHILD'S CRIMES.
Many of you on this blog have blogged about irreverant children and child criminals. None of you have really stood up and said.."Look at what that child did." No no..you say "Where were the parents?"
You can't take away the right or the place of the parent and expect a positive result. It just doesn't work that way. You are a parent. God put this child in your life for you to raise and make a good moral agent in today's society. One that is functional.You are in charge of clothing and feeding and loving that child till the day they leave your house and loving them after they are gone. How dare you give your right to CORRECT them away.
You are not the caretaker. You are the mother or the father. No one is paying you to take care of the kids. People see your kids and have no clue what it takes to feed and clothe them. Therefore they can't tell you not to correct them.No one is paying you to watch the kids. You're not the babysitter.You're the mommy and you're the daddy.
When that child is sick, Suzie Vigilante isn't sitting up with them and taking them to the hospital. When you've been laid off Suzie Vigilante isn't coming to help you meet the bills and dress them. When they get arrested you can bet Suzie Vigilante will be there to point out where you went wrong even when she wasn't ever there before.Don't let the Suzie Vigilante's of the world ruin the beautiful gift of a human being that you've been given.
You are the parent and not the caretaker. Act like it.