Thats right folks nice guys never do finish last only second cause they hold the door for first. I am in what I would consider quite a dilemma and would like as many opinions if possible. You see a week before Valentines day of this year I met one of my good friends room mates. I and Jen at first did not think to much of the other but the next day on-line she and I were talking up a storm to her room mate, who was not in the mood to talk o she made us talk to each other. Eight hours later it was time for me to go to work and we were forced apart lol. I came back home the next morning (I work over night) got on the computer to check my emails and saw that she was online, I said a quick hello and went to go to bed but she some how drew me into yet another lengthy conversation. As we talked my mind began to crank its tired cogs and dusty gears spinning forward with an ever increasing momentum. I was amazed but it was true for the first time in months I was writing again.

So I was feeling amazing that whole week talking to honestly one of the most amazing people I know who had the strange ability to just make me feel so much better, but alas she has a boyfriend of 7 years who lives in Vegas. That would not stop me though I could not simply give up I had started writing again, stopped drinking all together, and just generally felt good. My chance to show her I cared came on valentines day when abruptly her boy friend called without a single I love you, nor hello my dearest he simply snapped at her accusing her of being a filthy whore (which apparently was a regular thing for the drug induced individual to do), using a slue of verbal attacks to break her down. Upset I sought to help her feel better but it was of no use I decided drastic measures must be taken quickly procured a flower chicken wine (for cooking) and an array of seasonings to cook up a meal for her. Armed with nothing but the previous a suit and smile I showed up at her dorm cooked her food and just generally had fun.

Night turned into morning and I found myself nodding off every so often. We decided to retire, but afraid I might fall asleep driving she offered to let me stay at the dorm to sleep. Quickly I took up position in the rather uncomfortable table chair as it was the polite thing to do but she insisted that it was alright to sleep in her bed. That night we fell asleep talking to one another her in my arms it was spectacular.

Five months later things have progressed very far. Very romantically involved with one another, we seem to never run short on things to talk about or do as far as relationships go nothing could be better...Except that she has been unable to make the hard decision to stay with her boyfriend or myself. You see at first things were not so bad he was an awful person to her I don't think it would have been hard for her to choose me but you see he joined the army (for her) got off drugs and a slew of other things (for her). She does not play up to being as upset as I can see she is, it was most evident when he sent a heart felt letter saying that he next month will graduate from basic training and that he had already set up her being sent out to see him.

My thinking is that to be fair to Jen either myself or her boy friend needs to bow out of this situation. Since there is no chance he would do this especially since he does not know about me. I am thinking of cutting ties with her for her sake. I have friends who live out of state that I have known for years all who miss me and have shown interest in helping me move out there with them.

So after that long post (sowwie) my question is what do you think I should do? I don't want to lose her but I don't see any other way of taking this strain off of her.