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My Real World ...

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In the blogging world, people are beautiful. If they are not, they pretend to be. Most are educated, at least with college degrees. Most have wealth, at least to middle class standards. Or if they do not they have expectations of changing that, if not now then soon.

But there is another world. One that appears seldom in the blogosphere. And when it does, it's usually in the third person, not the first. A news item to be reported. A sad tale presented for mutual hand-wringing, bonding the well-dressed with "we're all right after all" before each one gets into a separate van to drive to the bar. A sound bite that doesn't, because it has no place in the experience of the hearer to latch onto.

When it does appear in its real form, not all dressed up for sale in media terms, it is shocking. Ill-mannered. Greeted with disapproval. How dare ...

In the American Southeast, we are used to thinking of this world as "black". In California, Hispanic (especially Mexican). In the cities, perhaps Haitian, or Somalian, or Cambodian. In much of New England, it is white.

It's a world of invisible people who mow the grass on golf courses, or sweep the grounds at the hotels, or set the banquet tables at the resorts. A world where the high school diploma, even in its current degraded state and with no language barrier to deal with, is still barely within reach. And crippling labels are attached to those who dare to reach. Where the irresistable force of age meets the immovable object of the minimum-wage job over the cleft stick of a pride that refuses most forms of welfare. And "benefits" are a myth as obscure as anything that ever came out of Greece. Where the people are those:

    Who offer hungry neighbors their protection
    Though hungry themselves, not knowing when if ever
    The situation will be changing for the better

Whose tirades are not the calculated profanity of the intellectual but the visceral outburst of the servant who has heard one dismissive crack too many. Today.

You know me, if you do, as a scientist, an academic with a Ph.D., an intellectual in absolutis who regales you all with comfortable tales, some taller than others, of the middle class.

But this is not my real world. I have entered into it and made my place in it. I am in it, but not of it. For now. For I am a sojourner among you.

My real world is the world of the invisible people. The ones who do what they have to to get by. And sometimes get angry about it.

A world of people who are better than I am. Because I don't think I could survive in their shoes.

  - O Ceallaigh

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IntricateGirl's picture

Thank you.

Thank you.

o ceallaigh's picture

appreciate it

speak to me more of what you found here if you will. by personal message if you like.

IntricateGirl's picture

No, I think I'd like to

No, I think I'd like to share most of it here.

I have been through hard times before, and through luck or I don't know what, I've made it through to better times. I hope I am always that lucky. Even when I've been down, I've had family that has been there and helped bail me out. And I have no idea if that is a good thing or a bad thing.

What touched me is that there are so many people who work harder than I will ever have to in my entire life. But the hardest working people are the ones that are the least paid. There is something wrong with that to its very core.

I had a lesson several years ago. I couldn't explain how I came to it now if I tried. I just don't remember anymore. A lot of people on the planet struggle with figuring out why they are on this planet- what their purpose is. I know mine. My purpose is to learn. I may not experience 99% of the things I learn, but my job is to learn them. There is a lot of wisdom in what you wrote, and it's something that will stick with me for a very long time.

But mostly I responded because of this statement, "When it does appear in its real form, not all dressed up for sale in media terms, it is shocking. Ill-mannered. Greeted with disapproval. How dare ..." If I let this blog pass without comment, no matter how much I may personally take from it, then I am doing my part to squash the lower classes. I can live with a lot of crap, but I can't stomach doing that. One of these days, Karma is going to pull my number from the great Lottery draw in the sky, and I will have to answer for how I treat other people. Every single religion has a version of the golden rule. Every one. Even Satanism. So the second I cannot make a real effort to understand what a fellow human being is going through, I have violated that most holy of laws. Will I understand?? Probably not. But I better make a really good effort at trying to.

And finally, I have no excuse for complacency anymore.

I'm Interested

Your blog raised several questions for me. What caused you to break through the wall, get that education and enter the middleclass world?Did you do it on your own? Did your parents sacrifice for you? Did you study extra hard? Did you forgo momentary gratification to get something better in the future? By your last comment are you inferring that the motive behind your "climb" was survival? What of the rest of your family...are they still in that old world? I am not being rude or smug, I truly want to know. I am trying to sort through all kinds of thoughts and opinions as I contemplate the illegal alien issue. I assume they are some of the invisible people you are talking about.( Forgive me if I am wrong) I want to have a right stance on the issue and there are many things to consider. What is your opinion?

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At risk of sounding either too smug or too soapboxy myself ...

... I'll try to get at your questions.

What caused you to get that education and enter the middleclass world?

It was valued; I was a child of the Depression / WWII era, where we kids were told "learn all you can, do better than us, don't let this happen again."

Did you study extra hard?

I think I can attribute success in school more to gift than to diligence. That and that I wasn't much good for anything else. I've always said I became an academic because I couldn't for the life of me drive a nail. I didn't think this was particularly exceptional - quite frankly I was unaware of most "class" issues until much later in my life. At the time I was too busy trying to get by on a daily basis. Being a tempestuous kid, in an odd, inwardly-directed sort of way, didn't help.

Did you forgo momentary gratification to get something better in the future?

Yes. From the age of 10 I had work, starting with caddying at the local golf course. Nearly all that money went into the college fund. As it happened, my grades and my circumstances won me an academic scholarship - a boon now extinct in today's world, dammit. But the college took that saved money anyway.

the motive behind your "climb" was survival?

See "drive a nail", above.

What of the rest of your family...

Part in, part out. It's for them to tell their stories as and when they choose. It's not "mud hut" stuff. But neither do any of us have the option of driving an SUV so we don't damage the 'Vette.

I agree with your wish to sort out the "illegal alien" issue. May I suggest that the issue extends to persons in the "lower classes" throughout this nation, whether illegal alien, legal immigrant, or multiple-generation citizen? The battles we fight now have featured in American consciousness since the late 18th century, when German and Irish immigrants first faced the disapproval of "native" British Americans. If I were 18 now, I doubt I would be going to college; the ante is too great. Even for the state schools. I think this is wrong.

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Intricate, you are most thoughtful

It's a pleasure to read what you write.

I've had family that has been there and helped bail me out. And I have no idea if that is a good thing or a bad thing.

Good if they pick you up, dust you off, feed you, and set you down the road again. Bad if they pick you up, clap you in irons, and march you to prison (which can be your "home"). Every gradation between these extremes exists. As you likely know.

But the hardest working people are the ones that are the least paid. There is something wrong with that to its very core.

I agree. But unfortunately it makes perfect sense, and not just in human societies. To those on the lower rungs on the ladder, the hard and dirty jobs are what's there; do them or perish. Those on the higher rungs know this, and are not about to raise the pay. So much literature has arisen from this fact, and its consequences.

Every single religion has a version of the golden rule..

It does. And many of its practitioners seem to go out of their way to disregard it. Or (for example) rush off to foreign lands to help while ignoring the fallen on their own doorsteps. Mea culpa.

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Thank you for your kind

Thank you for your kind words.

One question before I head off to bed for a long night of this issue rattling around in my head...

What if they pick you up, dust you off, feed you, and set you down the road again, only to find that the road doesn't lead outside of the prison, and the prison is one you built under their supervision? Because that is where I am. That is my real world. I am unable to move because the path has been cleared before me. 'Cause until I can figure out the answer, I am stuck.

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I know this one.

PM me and I'll give you my email. I have some thoughts on this, but I'd rather have most of this discussion offline.

I will say this much: if you know you're in prison, and you have a sense of where the walls are, you're well on your way to effecting your escape.

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Powerful and beautiful

Thank you for writing this. So true and eloquently put my friend.

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Thanks milady ...

... for some insane reason this brings to mind a ditty that an old girlfriend used to sing (to the tune of "The Stars and Stripes Forever"):

Be kind to your friends in the swamp,
'Cause a duck may be somebody's brother...

And may your son be less of a handful tomorrow. Repeat after me:

Children are fun. Children are fun. Children ARE fun ...

:)

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Good mantra OC....

I'll give it a try since my "SERENITY NOW!" (a la Seinfeld) has not been working for me....

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Hmmm

So you are attributing a good portion of your success to intelligence? Along with some personal effort of course! This is one of the big looming questions in the "class" debate for me. How much poverty is attributable to low intelligence and or laziness...not the lack of opportunity, educational or otherwise. We do associate education with the ability to get ahead after all. It seems to me in our quasi-socialistic society it is easier for the poor to be educated than for my middleclass son ( who is graduating high school in 17 days). Many of his friends, who are in a lower economic class than we are ,have many acedemic choices because they get assistance...we will have to hunt for a Jr. college close to home. They will go away with CHIP( Texas' version of low income health insurance)...we don't qualify,yet we (self-employed) can't afford private insurance. They will take their tax refunds with earned income credits and buy new wardrobes...we will rake and scrape if not borrow to pay our taxes.In many ways I think that the middle class has thicker walls to break through than the poor. First I think we need a true definition of poor. Just because someone doesn't have the necessities of life does not qualify him for that category...why doesn't he have those things? That is the question.It is no less fair,as Intricategirl was saying, for a man to work the hardest job for the least pay than for a man to work hard and his money to be taken away and given to someone who makes poor life choices or is just lazy. A system that just measures poverty by income can never be fair. A person working as hard as they can at as good a job as their education can obtain but they cannot afford the neccesities, should receive some help...there are circumstances of unemployment that are out of our control,short term assistance should be given... Help to the disabled(by birth,accident or illness), the mentally impaired ,the elderly, the widow,and the orphan is without debate. Those displaced by war or natural disaster should recieve help. Abandoned women trying to raise children should recieve help.Right now, that is about all I can think of that should be helped, you get the picture....but alas...the others have us over the barrell...they have babies, and lots of them, and the babies are innocent, they deserve the neccesities of life...in spite of their lazy parents. Herein lies the delima...What is a society to do? The culpable dwell among the innocent--the tares among the wheat---you cannot pluck up the one without harming the other.It is the same with the illegal alien debate...can we find a policy that will deter the illegal without penalizing the legal? We must have compassion but surely we cannot say that poverty is an excuse to break the law!

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A lot of stuff here

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Ok, now you REALLY must read

Ok, now you REALLY must read "Freakonomics."

Were you aware that a child who has a lot of books in the home usually does better in school than a child who has few books in their home? Why? It's not like Moby Dick seeps into the air like carbon monoxide while they sleep, infusing them with knowledge. It's because the children carry with them the message that knowledge is to be treasured. And the kids will struggle to not disappoint their kids.

Some misguided states have seen these studies, but misread the data. In my own state, this is true. I was horrified to see that one day, The Gubernatorial First Lady sent home a packet including a book. It's not because I have anything against books. I own an absolutely ridiculous number. My kids do too. I was horrified because the First Lady bought into the flawed reading of the data. You see, you can put the books in the home. You can put 1000 books in each home. If education is not treasured, it will not matter.

I truly believe that ANYONE has access to education. What they make of it is an entirely different issue. There is so much information available today, that if anyone searches, they can find vast amounts of knowledge. But if they don't desire knowledge, they will never go for it in the first place.

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Not just books, but which books

The point is that the books are used. And which ones get used transmits an important message. When I see a house with National Enquirer in it, I feel the urge to scream ...

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"Freakonomics" suggests that

"Freakonomics" suggests that perhaps it doesn't matter which books and whether they are used. Another factor that weighs into it is that typically those who place a higher value on education are those who have a higher IQ. And that alone may be the cause of their better school scores. Which is troubling in all kinds of ways, especially given the larger scope of this discussion. I will blog about this today.

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Reliance on IQ is a worry

I'm not up on the latest here, but I had been given to understand that most measures of IQ are actually of learning -experiences-, not learning -capacity-. I do not doubt that there are individual differences in learning capacity, but I do doubt our ability to measure these differences accurately - and in ways that don't reinforce our cultural prejudices.

I look forward to reading that blog.

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Exactly why it is troubling.

Exactly why it is troubling. If some truly accurate way could be devised to determine how best to help people learn, then most people would be on more or less equal ground. But of course, putting people on equal ground is NOT what most people want. Nobody wants to "keep up with the Joneses." They want to surpass them.

I'd only come here seeking peace.
I'd only come here seeking me.
It seems I came to leave.
-VNV Nation

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And let me also say this:

And let me also say this: Freakonomics was written by economists. They are not meant to really interpret data, but more to find patterns within it. That seems like it would be the same thing, but often it is not. So there is a strong possibility that they are missing part of the data or interpreting it incorrectly.

I'd only come here seeking peace.
I'd only come here seeking me.
It seems I came to leave.
-VNV Nation

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An article about the

An article about the immigration aspects of "invisible people."

I'd only come here seeking peace.
I'd only come here seeking me.
It seems I came to leave.
-VNV Nation

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Dylan Said: "Now you don't

Dylan Said:

"Now you don't talk so loud,
Now you don't
Seem so proud,
About havin' to be scroungin'
For your next Meal.
How does it feel?"
Also:

"When you ain't got nothin'
You got NOTHIN TO LOSE,
You're invisible..
got no secrets to conceal.
How does it feel?"

When I'm rich, with homes all over the country, I feed the hungry. When, in down periods, I'm not so wrapped in luxury, I still feed the hungry.

Not a religion, just, principles to live by.

Things to definitely ponder

Sorry it took so long to answer this.The topic has probably already grown cold but I appreciated your response.
I agree with your perspective also and it is true that if we knew how to fix this stuff we wouldn't be here! I probably did overstate my position that it is easier for the poor to get an education than for my son, I know that the bigger hurdle to overcome is the mindset, not the finances but in the attempt to equalize it financially they have truley made it unequal again.
I did not mean for the weeds and seeds remark to single out any particular ethnic or socioeconomic group, for the people I am referring to are found in every subset. There are very good and honest people in every strata of society.There are also the unethical.It is hard to discuss these topics with strangers...without knowing one another it is hard tell what lies behind each comment. I sure hope I did not come across offensively. I believe that our struggle to answer the questions of our generation ( even if we aren't the smartest) is what shapes our world.Sometimes I don't get the questions right, let alone the answers but at least I'm trying. Thanks again.

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thoughtful response

Since very few of us here know each other except as photons arising from an LCD display, I try to post and respond as if anybody and/or everybody is reading. It's just too easy to get the person wrong, while it's easier (and perhaps more helpful) to get at the thought.

Part of the problem in this specific thread is that this can be a "flame-able" topic. Someone with a fixed notion is bound to be offended, or see an opportunity for a proclamation of righteousness. Usually when there is much heat on a topic, it means that there's little light. The dispassionate have not yet been able to see a clear path, and perhaps there is none. All I can do is my best to be dispassionate myself, and if I seem sharp-edged at times, that may be because I am thinking about those in this world who are narrow-minded, prejudiced, what have you. Which, in this forum, usually does not include the specific person being addressed. Unless I say so - and that would usually be to someone whose writings I have been following for awhile. And even then I'm more likely to email the person rather than post intentionally personal comments here. I hope that's clear. I value your thoughts and interpretations.

Well told, friend

The invisible and the ex-invisible meet on the internet to enjoy mutual anonymity.

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