Isn't your mother in law supposed to hate you? Isn't she supposed to not want you around? To not talk to you? To not see you all the time? There enlies the freedom! So why do I have the mother in law who wants to have a "close" "tight" relationship? Mine wants me to be "just like another daughter to her." Maybe she meant like another daughter in law because her daughters don't spend too much time with her until they're dropping off grandkids (from her mouth to my ears.) However, her daughter in law calls her at least every other day if not every day. Guess what they talk about. The daughter in law's marriage to her son! I'm just thinking your other son and I have better things to do with our time than call you and talk to you about us. Sorry, I'm not hip with talking to my mother in law about my marriage. I think it's unhealthy and destructive. Don't get me wrong, the surface stuff "we're doing just fine", "yes I'll be starting a new job next week", is all good. BUT, not every day, other day or even week and CERTAINLY no more information than that. I'm not going to call you and tell you how your son was acting like a spoiled selfish brat the other day when he paid all his bills and didn't even ask about mine. You probably already know he's spoiled because you raised him that way!! Don't get mad at me because you've attached yourself to your children (the very ones the Bible tells you to let go) and when they finally leave you you're having a fit! Mothers prepare yourselves that your children MUST leave the nest. ESPECIALLY BOYS!!!! Then in an attempt to hold on to your son, you want to drag me into this sick attachment and make me dependent on you. You want me to let you get attached to me so that I can get what he got when I leave? No!!