Fantasy..

All that stuff people think of about love is just a fantasy, real love is not hating someone after you know all the gross things about them!!

A week ago internet love was true?

True, true Tamiya. After you learn that the other has an issue with, er....massive flatulence, for instance. True love, platonic (?) love, is what guides through the stench.

This type of love is what emerges when one mindfully attends to the other person, and does not mindlessly act out their fantasy-based issues.

Thanks for the response!

deorre

A difficult prospect, for sure. Hard to beat the real tangible stuff. It's also more emotionally risky--the tangible stuff.

deorre

"Love" is how we verbalize a specific neurological cascade that prepares us to suspend our normal "to the death" guarding of our personal space for specific persons, usually for protection, comfort, copulation, or all of the above. Scientists don't understand the cascade very well, but they know it's there.

The problem is that we don't have a good handle on what triggers the cascade. Remember that, before the 19th century, we didn't have photographs or electric/electronic communications, so our opportunities to "fall in love" with someone (something) not close to us were limited.

Loneliness is also a neurological cascade, and it has its own problems. James Thurber once wrote of a peacock who had no peahens around. So he displayed his sexual readiness to a chicken hen, who ignored him. Finally in frustration, he left the hen alone and displayed to his water dish.