We need to learn how to operate from a position of strength. My question is: Do you behave typically from positions of weakness, or from positions of strength?

The main norm for not transforming into a victim is to never operate from positions of weakness. It is extremely important that we demonstrate the others that we operate from a position of strength or otherwise they will be taking advantage out of us. This will cause us many problems because we will be sending signs to people that we can be manipulated.

To be strong or to operate from the strength doesn't imply at all to be powerful, to be a manipulator or not even to be energetic. I mean that you have the capacity to govern your life from positions of worthiness and effectiveness. You are always and in all moment a valuable and important human being. There is not reason for not advance or allow others to take the reins of your life and manipulate you for their own purposes, in a direction that questions your fundamental merits as a human being. In all situations you can choose between behaving with effectiveness and achieve your objectives or in an ineffective way, just to realize that you are prevented to do what you want and you are controlled, manipulated and tyrannized in many different ways for the others.

In most cases, you can show effectiveness and in all cases you will be able to operate from the position of your own intrinsic value as person. When dealing with your self-esteem you should remember that by definition this has to emanate from yourself. Your concept of personal value has to invariably come from inside of you. You are a human being and a meritorious one, not because other people say so, not because of what you have carried out, neither because of your successes. Rather you are valuable because you affirm it yourself as person, because you are convinced of it and mainly because you’ll have the purpose of to behave in all situations like a person of inestimable value.

Not to be victims or not to transform into victims begins with the purpose of to say and to believe that one is valuable, which you confirm when beginning to behave as a meritorious human being. This is the essence of the strength and naturally of the liberation and personal independence. You cannot proceed impelled by the necessity of being powerful and intimidating, but rather you should simply act from a strength that guarantees you being treated as a worthy person, because in the bottom of your soul you are convinced that you are important for the simple fact of being a human person.

In occasions you’ll realize that you cannot achieve your goals. From time to time you’ll trip with irrational people that are impossible to deal with. You’ll face situations in which you’ll have to give it all behind or to look for a formula that allows you to put limits to the outrages that you are suffering and to avoid that those outrages go farther. However you’ll be able to reduce those losses to a minimum and what is more important, you can completely eliminate the emotional dysfunctions that you’ll suffer.

To be effective means to apply all your personal memories and to use all the means that you have, provided you don’t run over the neighbor, to achieve your goals. Your own worthiness and personal effectiveness are the corner stones to operate from the strength. When governing your life from a position of emotional weakness, you not only become a loser in most of the occasions, but rather you are virtually invalidated as a person.