There are many times in life, where situations are not in our control. We tried our best to control the situations and make our life smooth. However the things go in the reverse direction. This is the one case. Main problem occurs when we have lot of expectation from some event. We have planned for it well in advance. We have managed all the things which are required for the successful completion of event. We are highly optimistic about the event. People associated with us are also certain about the success of event. But still the sometimes situations go out of control and the event fails. These are some small set backs that we all face in life.

Like take the example of entrance exam. You have prepared very hard for it. You have gone through all the study material required to clear the examination. Your parents, your friends and your teachers all are convinced about your success. More importantly you are convinced that after putting so much effort, success would definitely would we yours. However in the examination room everything changes in minutes. The test was from out of syllabus or from some unimportant subjects whom you have not studies or might your brain may not be working in proper way. You lose the whole game. This is big set back in the life of student who has lot of expectation from the examination.

Second example is from the work place. You join a job. You start with zero. You work hard to make it to top. People praise you. Everything is going well. You are told that you will be promoted if you continue performing in the same way. You make your day and night one to achieve the goals. You are very near to achieving the promotion. You tell everybody that you have worked hard therefore you will be promoted soon. Suddenly everything changes; the superiors who have promised you the promotion are no more with the company. You are shift to new division with new people.

Above are two examples of set backs which are mostly felt by many of us. For both the person these are big set backs. They can change their lives forever. Student’s interest in study and the other person’s interest in job may drop. To hard working people may take the wrong ways and look for short cuts. Any thing may happen, it all depends upon the maturity of them, the support of people around them and their determination to face the life. If everything is fine with them and they know the story of king and ant, then definitely they will fight back again.

This is also the right way to tackle setbacks. Set backs at some time are part of every one life. Some face it early and other after some time. Winner are those people in world who have faced and defeated these set back and not those never faced set backs. Set backs are good learners in many way. They help us to feel the defeat. They help us to know who our real friend is. They help us to understand where we are weak. They help us to learn the difference between very near and near. They make us more focus and oriented towards our goals. Only we are require to face them with open mind.

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