"And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

~Ephesians 4:32~

In this world, there is not alot of kindness.

People you think are your best friends talk about you behind your back, coworkers, and for some of us, even people we are related to.

So it goes to say, that there is a lack of forgiveness too.

For example, lets say you have a parent that is very set in their ways. There is something you might have wanted to do, and it really wasn't so bad. You went ahead and did it, but you never told your parent because you knew they aren't the forgiving sort.

When a person is unforgiving, it really puts a damper on the type of relationships they can have with people. You really can't be yourself around that person, because you worry when they might get upset with you. And for the person that won't forgive, it is their own separate kind of hell.

If you are an unforgiving parent, than your child can't really open up to you for fear of how you are going to react.

If you are an unforgiving spouse, then your spouse is going to walk on pins and needles. If they have asked your forgiveness and you have gave it, you better mean it or chance losing your relationship. Shutting someone out is not going to fix anything.

Once you have got an unforgiving person upset, what can you do? They might even be refusing to speak to you. Well, it kind of depends on what you did. If you did something horrible, you need to apologize. Even more than that, you need to learn a lesson from it. If they won't speak to you, write them a letter. And even if they don't accept your apology, at least you have cleared your own conscience.

If you are the person that hasn't forgiven someone, than it's time to open yourself up and have the peace that you need. It's not your fault that they might have done what they did, but you have to ask yourself if that person is important to you. If they are, you better forgive them and fast, before you love the relationship you have. You can't do anymore than that, and you can't continue to live in that kind of state. If they continue to do the same things, you need to ask yourself if that is the kind of person you want in your life.

A person can't go wrong living according to biblical standards. The Lord wants us to live a happy and peaceful life. We have the bible as a guideline to this happiness. If you find the bible hard to understand, buy another one. If you find that you are unhappy and stressed out alot, it's time to reevaluate your life.

But remember:
"And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

~Ephesians 4:32~