LOVE RELATIONSHIPS - STORY OF BHARTRUHARI
LOVE RELATIONSHIPS - STORY OF BHARTRUHARI
Citizens of some countries believe that marriages are made in heaven. In India, marriages are arranged by elders taking into account calculations of money and dowry, status, employment, education, religion, caste etc. Love starts after marriage. Premarrital sex rarely takes place, that too with a sense of guilt, and probably secretly.
There are six possible permutations and combinations of results from this setting of union.
1. Both the groom and bride may start with kaama (lust) and preema (love) simultaneously. The first is more concerned with the carnal desires. The second is concerned with the mind. The setup may continue for decades till death of any one. This seems to be the ideal mode of cohabitation and consummation.
2. Both may start with lust initially and extend to love with afflux of time.
3. Both may start with lust and one may end up with love.
4. Both may start with love and end up with lust.
5. Both may start with love and one may end up with lust.
6. Both may start with lust and end up with lust. The physical union may ultimately become mechanical.
LOVE CHAIN
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Bhartruhari: Indian King and poet (7th C.)
One day a sage came to his court and gave him a golden mango fruit.
SAGE: "The fruit is endowed with elixir characteristics.
Whoever eats it will have eternal youth. Pl. give it to the person whom you love the most."
The king gave the mango to his dearest queen, informing the rejuvenative characteristic of the fruit and asking her to eat.
But, secretly, she gave the golden mango to her beloved who was a servant, explaining that it was an elixir rejuvenator.
The servant gave the mango to his beloved who was a milk maid, stating that was is an elixir rejuvenator.
The milk maid gave the mango to her beloved who was a street vendor, stating that it was an elixir rejuvenator.
The vendor presented it to the King in his court, explaining the rejuvenative nature of the fruit.
The king was astonished. He initiated an inquiry, and followed the trail. He got instant vairagya and relinquished his kingdom, the family and the worldly affairs.
Bhartruhari's Srumgaara S`atakam (srumgaara = love and its manifestation; s`atakam = 100 verses) is a magnificent treatise on the psyche of love and infatuation.
Some say that Srumgaara S`atakam is an erotica. It is not true.
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Terms Also called
Sringara Satakam
Bharatrihari
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I apologize that I can't cite the culture--I promise I'll look it up and post it, but there are still societies today in which people consider monogamy to be a crime and others in which a woman has multiple sexual partners either on ritual occasions or throughout her life.
We tend to forget that the customs we follow are just those that we follow--that we have evolved into these traditions but they are neither sacrosanct nor necessarily the best for us.
Historically, mating, marriage and sexual relationships have gone every possible way. Extremes have been horrendous in some cases, and still are, for instance, involving genital mutilation which still goes on today, as you know.
Keep an open mind and treat your partner with compassion, candor and integrity. You may be surprised.
Michael Winn
http://thedelmarnews.blogspot.com
Does she(he) really love me or not?
Keep an open mind and treat your partner with compassion, candor and integrity--- This is an excellent comment, which had I been more realistic, should have written in the blog. This is the essence of marriage. Thanks for your comment.
"You may be surprised."-- kindly make it more clear and detailed.
Your comments have prompted me to write a new blog, on the same subjec of marrital extra-marrital relationships, with one more oriental story.
Nice meeting you, though on the compu screen.
Let's sing 'Climb every mountain'.......
Here's the way I look at it.
You have to call yourself Mount Everest.
Do you know how many people have died tryin' to get up on top of that thing?
Does she(he) really love me or not?
Thanks for your frank comment. I took up the post, as a one day's topic. I am afraid that I have to narrate more ancient stories (from my limited knowledge of Indian History and the Sanskrit Literature). This has become necessary to make myself more clearer as I am unable to express fully with my limited vocabulary. Kindly read part 2 posted on Feb 3, 2006. I am afraid that I am sounding cynical or negative tones. It is not the intent anyway.
YETURU BHASKAR, GUNTUR, INDIA
It's all an illusion anyway.
Who cares if they love you or not? Work on yourself and forget about love because in the end you only have yourself and if it doesn't work out, love isn't going to put gas in the car or food on the table.
Even a desert will be better
than an AC Chamber if the partners understand one another. There will be no need of gas in the car or food on the table.
It is like this: When we read Paradise Last, we feel that Satan is preferable than the vindictive God.