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Dear God I’m Depressed!

The day didn’t begin this way. After getting some writing done I set out for Burger King to use the net. On Myspace was a message from a friend in Big Spring. She and I have kept in contact off and on, but today is the day she decided to fill me in on mutual friends like I’ve asked her to do a million times before. *Note to self: NEVER DO THAT AGAIN!*

Well, one friend isn’t doing so hot and I sent good wishes to him. The other is actually doing very well. As a matter of fact she’s finally found herself a good man and is pregnant with a baby boy! Mozel Tov! But, as with the passing of George Carlin, this great news has me looking at my own life. I wrote back that I am so happy for her and to send my love. I added that I wished I could say that I’ve found a good guy, too, but haven’t had the time to even look. That’s when the grey clouds began to form.

I mean, geez, I really don’t begrudge her for finding happiness! I’d kinda wondered if she’d EVER get her head out of her ass and start treating anything seriously. So, hearing this news has me thrilled. But, you know the last real, non-job-related conversation I had was with my nearly next door neighbor on the way to Burger King. She’s a really sweet woman and only about 60% crazy. 70% tops! And, during this conversation, when she wasn’t randomly throwing out that she’s been through menopause, she was educating me on bed bugs. Apparently they have them in their room. She also, after I told her about Nella’s Autism, began to stress how important it is that Nella learn brail. Yep....brail. Why? I have no fricking idea!

Back in the room I could only think about my current state of limbo. I know no one here. I have no friends. And, I certainly don’t have the spare, kid-free time to meet a man! Actually, there is a guy very interested in me, but unfortunately he’s one of those scumbag players who makes my skin crawl and inspires me to crush his testicles into the sidewalk with the heel of my shoe. Sadly, the professional man who loves kids, doesn’t have a police record, drug habit or mental illness hasn’t shown up yet. Hey, I could have jumped on the bus to Westwood the other day and watched 3 episodes of ‘Spaced’ and listened to Edgar Wright speak afterward. I may have even said to hell with it and gone up and introduced myself! I could have...er, only I couldn’t go. Man this sucks!

So ya, I hear of really good news and plunge into my own pity-party. Hopefully I’ll start back to work next week and that will enable me to (in a couple weeks or so) go out and maybe meet some people. But, I feel like this quest for balance has been going on so long already! And, don’t get me wrong. I’m *not* speaking solely of meeting a guy. I’m talking about meeting anyone! I’m so much more desperate for a girlfriend or two than I even realized. Hearing about folks back in Big Spring only made me notice how isolated we really are. I’ve been so focused on working and child care and getting Nella help that I have been oblivious to the lack of even crazy conversations. Well, at least that part I can check off the list now!

But, what really gets me is the Myspace friend who started all this ~ and yes, I blame her ~ is someone who kinda made my head hurt whenever we spoke in person. So, that makes my envy kind of stupid. Well, if it weren’t so true that my current situation is so sad. I really am going to take the advice I gave Brenna and look into some groups here, like a book club or something. Maybe I’ll even find the holy grail ~ a group that provides child care while the grown ups hang out and someone introduces me to their gorgeous good friend...the single, straight Jewish doctor.

Ya, and maybe dreidel’s will fall out of my butt.

And so it’s a friday night, Reaper isn’t on, Moonlight is cancelled, CBS SUCKS, the kid isn’t a hot guy and we don’t have cable. I’m getting drunk later.

Hey, it’s what zombie Jesus would do!

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IntricateGirl's picture

Zombie Jesus?

The power of Christ impales you- zombie Jesus? (And on the off-chance anyone isn't familiar with D-list horror movie titles, no, I'm not that clever.)

I'm sorry it's not been more fun. And I wish you much more fun in the future. And yes, it's absolutely imperative that Nella learn braille. ;) Why? 'Cause it's cool, that's why.

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Well, IG, when you put it that way! LOL

I’ve found the Zombie Jesus thing too funny since the convention where I saw it on a t-shirt (“What would zombie Jesus do?”). I suppose learning brail wouldn’t hurt her, but it was just too nuts how she kept insisting that Nella learn it! Hopefully soon I’ll be able to get out and start doing some grown up stuff. Or, make some play dates and hang out with a mom or two while the kids play. ANYTHING!
As for Christ impaling me - um, in this neighborhood I’d not be surprised! When I mentioned “Jesus on every corner” in another post, I forgot to mention that he’s presented in the scariest forms ever! I’m totally serious. If my own personal beliefs hadn’t brought me to Judaism, the stores around here would have scared me to it! LOL
And, is my face red! I so don’t get the reference. Which movie is that from?? It actually sounds familiar, but I just don’t know! LOL

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Ahh, dang it! I had to look

Ahh, dang it! I had to look it up. I stumbled onto a movie on Netflix the other day. And instead of zombies it was vampires, so it's completely pointless now. But the title is "Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter". I read that title and thought that was possibly the coolest thing I have ever read. :D

The braille thing... a few years back, there was a Dateline episode or news report where they helped SEVERELY autistic kids by sort of holding their hand as they tapped out messages. The proponents said it allowed them to communicate with the outside world in ways they couldn't before. The critics said that most of the time, the kids weren't even looking at the screen, so how were they the ones that were typing anything. So, I don't know. MAYBE she saw this report and about 3% of what they said actually stuck with her, but she mixed it up and thought it was braille, and that it was essential for all kids with autism, not just the ones that are really far down the spectrum. I don't know, but that's my best guess what she might have been thinking.

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Ok, that makes more sense

That makes more sense and severely Autistic kids do do well with sign language. I guess the problem is that the general public isn't aware that it's a spectrum disorder and has many different signs. That's just one of the reasons I added a highly skilled Autistic to the tv show I'm writing. If I can ever get it produced, the whole world could see that Autism has many signs.

The movie sounds awesome and I'll try to remember it when I get a new dvd player! I tried to find a copy of the What Would Zombie Jesus Do? t-shirt, but my computer kept haning up. It's really so weird and insulting that it's hystarical! I should have bought the t I saw at the con!

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While we're on the topic of

While we're on the topic of zombies, I almost stole a magnet off a car. I think my husband and kids being there is the only thing that stopped me from swiping it. It was a black ribbon- you know, like the breast cancer or support our troops ribbons- with the words "Zombie Survivor" on it. SO FREAKIN' COOL!

Check at wickedcoolstuff.com. They've got the t-shirt.

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Yep, that's the one

That's the site that hung up my comp when I tried to lift the picture of the t-shirt! I love that magnet! Too funny! Actually, today I'm wearing my army green 'Zombie Hunter' tank top - you know, the one I bought at the con and got me called a WHORE to my face the 1st day I wore it! {sigh} Man, I love this shirt!
P.S. Next time steal it. Just distract your hubby & kids by yelling - "Look over there! Something SHINY!". Seriously, it works on all kids and men!

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Nah. Besides, I'd battle my

Nah. Besides, I'd battle my conscience later. I'd sit there thinking that I don't want someone stealing MY zombie survivor magnet, and that we zombie survivors have to stick together.

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Sorry Spooky,...

that things aren't going better for you. However, my first question to you is why you haven't hooked yourself up with a temple in some fashion so you could begin to meet some people. I mean, you're still going through the conversion, right?

Give yourself some time, and you'll integrate yourself into something soon enough. You just got there after all. As for learning braille, I'm thinking the woman doesn't know what autism is; not everyone who doesn't have kids does. We're all pulling for you.

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Actually, Catfish

One of the very first things I did was get us to Temple services. I was really looking forward to it, but it didn’t go so hot since Nella kept acting up and there was a Bat Mitzvah going on that day. I really wasn’t discouraged, though, until I read the article in the paper about how this Synagogue owned a building next to it - a rent controlled apartment building - and that they evicted the folks to plow the building over for a parking lot! The more I looked into it, the more I didn’t feel comfortable going there. And, with my limited time lately I haven’t found another Reform Synagogue. But, yes, going that route had been part of my “getting to know people” plan.
As for the neighbor, she actually does know what it is because she explained that one of our other neighbors has an Autistic kid. So, the brail thing was really from left field! Oh well, she meant well even if it doesn’t make sense! LOL
I’ll try to keep patient. I guess it just seems like we’ve been here forever, even though it’s only been a couple months. You know me - always impatient! LOL

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I understand the inpatience thing, Spooky,...

when I want something, I want it now! Spoiled Americans that we are.

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You Know

You know....Braille might be a pretty cool thing for her to learn. It does involve touch and it might work in her behalf....just a thought.....

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Maybe, Ms. Zola

It just really came out of left field when she kept insisting on it. I mean, she’s not blind and is having enough trouble with everything else, so it just didn’t make sense. Especially from someone who knows an Autistic child like she says she does. But, if it ever became available to her, ya never know! One thing my kid has taught me is to never underestimate her!

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Things could be alot worse....

You just need to stay on the upside of everything...dont start comparing yourself or your situation with anyone elses...that is a sure way to bring you down. Like Catfish said..you just got there and you have been focusing on job, daycare, and a place to settle. That just shows your priorities at the point, which is a good thing.
You will get to the point where you will be able to meet people and start having some good conversation over coffee or whatever, just give it a little time. I know you will overcome all of this, your way to strong of a person not to..keep your head up girl.

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You know, Ammorton

I didn’t give it all a single thought until then. Even when Mr. scumbag player and his crony/slacker buddies pretty much labeled me a snob, bitch, I thought - “If doing what I need to do and taking care of my baby makes me a bitch, I’ll wear that label with pride!”. But, once I was hearing about these other people I suddenly realized that I haven’t had a single, face-to-face conversation with someone unless it was about work! I still don’t care if they think I’m a bitch, but suddenly I just felt pretty damn lonely. I *am* reminding myself how much I hated Big Spring and really only miss my sister, but still. Coming home and spending another Friday night watching tv and listening to my neighbors enjoy the night really bummed me out. I moved the bed by the window for the cool air, so I can hear them laughing and talking and listening to music. I just need to get off my butt and make that happen for me! I *love* the tv times with the kid ~ Desperate Housewives, Reaper and all the CSI’s ~ but I need to create some “special time” for me and some grown ups, too! LOL
I will take my time and be patient. A lot of my isolation also comes from living where we do right now. This neighborhood is made up by mostly immigrants who don’t speak English. So, even meeting someone in the check out line is kinda impossible. Oh, well, time will tell and I’m sure I’ll make some friends soon enough. thanks for the encouragement!

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Spooky-girl, you are doing fantastic!

You've been out and about doing some fun stuff like the convention and you've been getting used to the city, finding a place to live and a job. For the short time that you've been there you have done alot - a LOT!

As for the headache queen and her new fella, stop and think about just what kind of a man she found - not only someone who would put up with her (probably someone with fairly low standards) but someone in Big Spring. Your standards are much, much higher and you are right where you need to be to find that fabulous guy. But more importantly, you are right where you need to be to show the world just how fabulous you are. And, from where I'm sitting (and I know that is an entirely different thing) that's the most important thing - for the world to see your fabulosity. When the world does see that, the men will be beating down your door. You just wait and see.

Keep on chugging, girl. You are wonderful. Go on out there and be wonderful and all the rest will follow. I guarantee it.

As for Nella learning braille, I think she should learn to cha-cha before she learns braille, but maybe that's just me.

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Thanks, PW!

Ya, I reminded myself of the con and everything, but felt like I’d suddenly come to a halt on it all. Like, I started out so strong and then all the fun stuff stopped. Part of it is money and part of it is spending my free time writing. So, it’s not all bad that I haven’t been getting out to socialize. I mean, I am doing what I need to do, but still felt pretty lonely once I looked at being here for a couple months and still not knowing anyone. I can’t even make friends in the work place since the temp agency only seems to send me on jobs where nobody speaks English! I mean, I’m in this surprisingly exciting city and dying to do all sorts of things that I’ve only been able to “bookmark” for future reference. Even the thing in Westwood was just one part of the Los Angeles Film Festival! So, imagine being here to get my career off the ground, there’s the festival only a bus ride away and I couldn’t even make it to the ONE thing that would have actually been maybe, kinda relevant to my non-existent career! And, don’t get me started on how badly I want someone to go see Wicked with! I may cry! LOL
Thanks for reminding me about the headache girl! LOL Yep, I can only imagine that the new fella is a very patient man, indeed! She’s one of those people who will ask you about something and half way through will interrupt you with something else entirely - as though you’d not been speaking at all! So, yes! My standards are much higher and I feel confident I’ll meet someone in the future. And, it’s not even the lack of a guy that bummed me out - it’s the lack of anyone to hang out with. You know, like a normal person! LOL
I also don’t feel the need to have her rush out to learn brail! She’s not blind! Not even close! But, I just found it really funny that this woman would find it so important. But, also a perfect example of my last non-work related conversation and why it’d make me sadder then none at all. ;-)
I will keep your encouragement close to my heart! And, if I have everything in place by the end of next month (like I’m planning) I’ll be in a much better place to start meeting people and having a personal life. Thanks as always for the pep talk and havin’ my back!

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No Dreidel dropping allowed Spookyyank

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You are hereby commanded to "snap out of it dammit" That's a direct order from me...you don't want to disappoint me do ya?? C'Mon!! All kids should learn another language and Nella is no exception...good for you and her!

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Ya know what, Sassy?

There’s a kindergarten I’m dying to get Nella into! It’s progressive and they actually teach the kids Japanese! How cool, huh? And, I was advised that she’s predisposed to learning foreign languages, so I’ve had that on the list for awhile. You should hear the kid’s Hebrew! It comes out CLEARER than her English!
And, don’t worry, I’ve already snapped. Having our present isolation brought to the front of my attention did sting, but I’m really too excited about the writing I’m getting done. I remind myself that once I’m getting my work out there and things start to happen I’ll be in really good shape to socialize. But, on the other hand, I promised myself I wouldn’t be a hermit who doesn’t know anyone! So, I am just kinda pissed at myself for not making the effort that I’d promised myself I would. Really, what I want is someone to hang out with. Just for things to become normal. The guy can wait until things are less hectic for me, but things aren’t so hectic that I couldn’t meet up with a girlfriend or two for coffee or dinner or the theater. I missed out on seeing Mama Mia and now have to settle for only the movie. Wicked is playing in town and I’ve LOVE to go! But, as much as I’m happy to do a lot by myself, I just don’t wanna do something like that by myself. Hence my frustration. But, things will get better. I just need to be more open than I have been!

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Certain languages are easier for kids to learn Spooky

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It does not surprise me that Nella picked up Hebrew quickly...the best languages for kids to learn easily are the Romance languages...like if you put French and Spanish together you can figure out Italian and Portuguese:D I hope for Nellas sake she does get into this school..it sounds great. Her getting into this school might be a cool way for you to meet some other mothers and then you will have something in common and can get a little babysitting club going. Now that too would be very cool:) I wish you luck...now get back to work on your writing:D

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I'm working on it, Sassy

On the school and the writing, both! The way I look at it is if I've got the "free" time waiting on jobs, I have the perfect thing to fill it with. And, it's funny because you know my sister and I always joked that her made up language was great, but dammit, she needed to learn English! So, it only makes the foreign language thing funnier and cooler.

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