Can You Call This Stealing?

Submitted by theclassy1 on March 1, 2006 - 2:56pm.

I had a debate about this some time ago at my previous employment. Stealing, money and marriage are touchy issues. I don't recall what movie or program it was in. Maybe one of you may rememeber?!

This is what happened. On a show, there was a married couple and the wife took some money out of the husband's wallet. Now I don;t believe she worked, but does that really make a difference. If she had to buy groceries, fill up the tank, or pick up his dry cleaning she needs money. Right? Well, the women thought it was fine, but the few men lost it. They called it stealing.

Now I ask you. If the couple is married and they live together, is it really stealing?

Feel free to comment, the floor is all yours....

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I think it does matter if

#50171 On March 1, 2006 4:03pm IntricateGirl said,
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I think it does matter if the wife worked. I am a SAHM, and after my kids are both in school, I probably will not work. I may eventually hold a job, or even have what could be called a career, but it is not for the money. It would be to keep my mind fresh.

Because I do not work, I have other responsibilities. I clean the house, I cook dinner, I search for things for my husband while he is at work. I do the household shopping, and I also act as a leasing agent for our commercial property. In short, he brings in the home, and I do everything else associated with making sure it runs properly. He cannot compensate me as much as a normal job would. In exchange, when I want a new pair of shoes, or even if I need something as mundane as a carton of milk for the whole family, I will take it from his wallet without thinking. If I even brought this up to him, I'm sure he'd be puzzled over what the big deal is.

If I did work, I would have just as much money on hand as he does, so there wouldn't be any need to take it out of his wallet. If I did, he still would not cause a fuss over it.

Are these people in short-term marriages or something? I mean, there has to be something better to fight over than declaring something "ours" instead of "mine".

Well let's see...

#50180 On March 1, 2006 5:08pm lisalogan said,
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...did the couple live in a community property state, or a locale where the WOMAN is considered property?

The men with an issue over a wife feeling entitled to take money she needs (assuming she didn't steal the rent money to go rendezvous with another lover?) need to go look up the word "marriage" and embrace their inner M word. If they want a woman around to cook and clean who has zero right to touch his wallet, they should hire a maid.

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Stealing

#50185 On March 1, 2006 5:23pm Anonymous said,

It's not stealing. Men will often think because they are out working making all the money that's it all theirs but if they had to pay someone for the work their wives does, I doubt they could afford it.

Do they Communicate?

#53442 On March 27, 2006 4:44am deorre said,
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If they communicate about it, and/or it is otherwise implicit that they share money, then it's not stealing. If she was sneaky about it, and did not tell because she knew this was out of the bounds of their implicit rules, then it is stealing.

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no i don't think i'd call it

#53445 On March 27, 2006 4:58am simpleman said,

no i don't think i'd call it stealing, infact i wouldn't even think twice about it.

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