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from the opposite wall.

Yeah, it's mine. Addresses part of your question maybe.

:) Thanks... I don't think I'd seen that before...

So are you a nice guy or a bad boy? (Although I think I already know the answer...)

American Idol Madness
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Because nice is boring , you want someone to treat you like dirt(because that rebellious attitude makes him more "cool") but also able to manage you while looking "cool". you rather be excited by the "cool" appeal , its a greater challenge. And your attracted to his "cool" image.

I'm not sure what kind of relationship you are looking for, but I'll tell you what I know from experience (and you may already know this). Bad boys don't stick around long, at least in my case he didn't, but there's certain things I won't tolerate.

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Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night. - Edgar Allan Poe

I wouldn't say I'm looking for someone to treat me like dirt ... but I think you have the "exciting" and "bigger challenge" thing right ;-)

By the way, I like your blog (the Blogger one) :)

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LOL... now people are going to think I want some guy who will abuse me... ;-) No, that's definitely not the type of relationship I'm looking for...

I guess I should've mentioned that this "bad boy" I'm talking about has some good qualities too.. he CAN be nice... and sweet... and even vulnerable... we've had conversations about his situation at work. I think I'm drawn to him because he opened up about that, actually... but he is definitely not as approachable as the "nice guy" I mentioned either... and you won't find many people at the office who have good things to say about him...that's all...

But thanks for your warning... I totally agree :)

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I'm a nice guy or at least I like to think so. In my experience being a nice guy only works if you've got time to put into the courtship. However, if you're trying to get some bang for your buck then you have to at least act like a bad boy.

Now most of my experience comes from trying to pick up women in college bars and more recently bars in NYC. The bad boy act has definitely payed higher dividends in the bars. I would think being a nice guy would be more attractive but for some reason you women want the bad boy.

I too am attracted to bad boys. I think it's because they always keep you guessing. With a nice boy (my hubby) I can predict his every move.
It's kinda like when men say that they would date a stripper, but not take her home to meet the folks. Women want bad boys but not as a real relationship. We want to play the "suspense" game. First, it's a challenge to lure him in. Then it's the challenge of keeping him.

I think women like when a bad boy is nice to them. So although he has this rough exterior with everyone else, but he treats you like gold it feels that much better.

Because mr nice guy is already nice to you, you don't have to try to win his affection, so there is no passion. It would be boring. But with the bad guy, even though he might break your heart (or someone's face, lol), there would be passion.

Dreams Matter.

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Pchan kinda touched on it. The bad boys are unattainable by anyone. So if you can get one, it's like you've conquered the unconquerable. At least for the 15 minutes he sticks around.

At least that's the way it was for me. I could have had any nice guy I wanted. But it was the Groucho Marx syndrome. "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member." Only for me, it would be, "I refuse to date anyone who would want to date me." lol It made for a lot of frustration. The boy who wanted me to be an one time fling. The boy who wanted me to be a foot shorter. The boy who wanted me to play stupid. I couldn't be any of those things to any of them. Finally I found my hubby who seemed like a REALLY bad boy, but is nothing more than a sweetheart. He wanted me to be me. I just didn't find this out until after he sucked me in with the whole bad boy routine.

pchan & IntricateGirl - there's just something about that bad boy routine that is hard to resist... nothing against the nice guys...just that sometimes a girl wants "passion" and not "predictability"... :)

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I don't think I have much to add to this except yea it certainly does suck being a nice dude.

I decided a few years ago to switch up game plans and it's worked a lot better but at the same time it sucks having to play a role that isn't you, just to get females to at least consider looking at the real you.

to be honest i'm in a situation now where for the first time, being the uncontrollable bad boy has backfired and I've had to ring it in and cut back on telling her all the stories that happen to me...but yea...nice guys finish last most of the time.

but wah wah wah!!!

I started out as a "Bad Boy", then enjoyed a rather meteoric evolution up the ladder from "troubled" to my present EVIL station and I can say with conviction- (and I know all about being convicted!)- that the females that I have consorted with have always thanked me for the "eye-opening" experiences that were shared between myself and those chain-smoking, shot-slamming, pole-dancing vixens. Ahhh...Good Times They Were. MOO-HA-HA-HAaaaaaaa...(heavy sigh)

Evil_Bob

I like bad boys that can treat me good. It shows that they aren't all bad and that he can change for you. A female feels real good when she knows that a guy could change just for her

-iF nOt Me thEn wHo?

I would say that most guys are nice guys when it comes down to it. It's just the exterior that may be a little rough. And maybe a little bit of the interior, but when I guy feels a certain way about a woman he will show it. One important difference in a "bad boy" and a "nice guy" is maybe how soon and emphatically they show those feelings.

If I didn't know better, I'd say MizzQueen was flirting with you! ;-)

Must be your new pic :)

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I landed myself an ex- bad boy who still looks like a bad boy (whos hsowers daily though! lol!) but who is a very nice guy, and awesome dad. They do exist, this wonderful mix of manhood! ;-)

If I didn't know better I'd think you were flirting with me too. I'll take you noticing my pic as a compliment. Thanks.

Never ;-)

Yeah, your pic reminds me of that other guy w/no shirt...what's his name again? haha...

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I feared your response. I tried not to write it, but the opening was there. Yea I posted a pic with my shirt off, but I am the same dude clutching the beer can a couple days ago. I think my blogs consist of more substance than what you think of my body. And actually I segued into the introduction of my new pic by saying I posted the pic in order to stay on your level. I am surprised you attacked one of your buddies so easily.

I just now read what you wrote in your blog...so yes, I take it back. Your pic does not remind me of ... that other guy. :)

And you of all people do not have to take your shirt off to get people to read your blogs... ;-)

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thanks

That doesn't sound like the OC I know... you can't give up just because of one...or two...or however many bad experiences. If your desire is to find a woman that you can have a real, honest relationship with...then keep trying! Bad guy or nice guy...what women want is someone REAL... and the ones who don't... well, you don't want to be with them anyway. ;-)

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