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Apathetic Class of 1977

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My 30th high school reunion was supposed to be last year; it didn't happen. There wasn't even talk of it until, oddly enough, December of last year, when someone sent out an email to as many people as he knew saying we had to be the lamest class of all time.

So, one person took up the challenge of leading the contingent, and she invited as many people who wanted to come to the planning meeting as possible. Even though I wasn't all that popular, for reasons I won't go into now, I decided to show up to see how I felt about it all, and see if I could offer to help.

A brief word about my high school. We had a graduating class of almost 900 kids. The school was so big they actually built a second school behind us just to hold the 9th graders. I only went two years, and was overwhelmed by the size of the school for nearly the entire period I was there. We were broken up alphabetically by floor and area, and we had six different areas that were called houses. Most of my classes were with people whose last names were close to mine; only science classes and gym class allowed us to mingle, not including lunch. Our graduation took so long that I don't remember a single thing about the day except seeing my first lava lamp at someone's house at a graduation party; I have no idea whose house nor who I went with, or when I got home; and I don't drink!

Still, it leaves a big pool of people from which I expected a nice number of people might show up for this event. I got there and there was only one person, who I didn't recognize but knew had to be the leader, and it was; her name is Cheryl. Within 10 minutes two more people had shown up, one I remembered well enough named Gary who I used to play cards against, and another I didn't recognize, but realized after awhile that I had met named Kevin.

I had bad feelings about the whole thing at this point, but decided I'd help out by running a class blog where we could post information. Over the next bunch of months email was sent out, phone calls here made, and a lot of people were contacted. Commitments were made, hotels were booked, planning was made for a dinner and a picnic. I still had this feeling that things weren't going to go according to plan. the other people on the committee thought at least 200 people would show up; I said I thought we'd be lucky if we got 50, and that was including spouses.

With a month to go, my fears were realized. Cheryl only received checks from 12 people, including me; that pretty much canceled dinner. Within the next week we canceled the picnic also, and decided to set up a happy hour. That was last night, and, for me, it wasn't a disaster, but it didn't go as planned. The happy hour was held at a very popular local restaurant and bar, and there were at least 300 people inside and outside the place. After 30 years, I only recognized one person at the happy hour, and he was from the class after mine. Seems they had been scheduled to go to another restaurant and bar a couple of blocks away, but they, at least he, had the same problem of recognizing anyone and came over to ours, hoping to see anyone else he knew, which was one guy from my class I'd never met before.

So, I didn't know almost anyone; from my class, that is. I did see an old friend that I hadn't seen in about five years and his wife, who didn't go to my high school. And I met one of the local television news anchors, who, it turns out, graduated from my high school in 1983 and was there looking for members of his graduating class, who were also meeting at this same restaurant and bar, and he was having problems recognizing people and couldn't find his wife; wow. We talked with our friends about 5 minutes, then decided to go to dinner with each other and end the farce of the high school reunion.

And we did. Olive Garden was great, followed by the X-Files movie, and my 30th high school reunion was a success, though for the wrong reasons. Once again, proof that you can't wish anything positive for others, only for yourself. I had a good day.

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Hey man ...

... I am also of the class of 1977 though I am not from your school. "77 is just like heaven." Anyway, I skipped my 30th, also my 20th -- but I did attend my 10-year reunion -- and my theory is that one class reunion should be all anyone has to suffer through in one lifetime.

Nice article, though. Glad you had a good time.

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Ken, I actually,...

skipped my 10th reunion, but went to the one for the class behind mine and had a great time, because, for some reason, I knew many more of them than my own class mates. I don't know why I went, or even tried this time around; I'll have to explore that one some more.

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Well look at the sunny side Catfish!!!

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At least you didn't have to diet and "trim down" I absolutely hate "reunions" they tend to bore the shit out of me and if I haven't seen someone for 30 odd years it's usually because I choose not to see them:D

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Don't know why, Sassys,..

I even felt like I wanted to try, since I hadn't tried to go to any of the others. Maybe I had to learn something for myself, and at this point I think I have, or at least feel that I have. And that, for some reason, depresses me just a little bit.

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Well why did it depress you Catfish?

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It sounds to me a little like despite the fact that you only went there for 2 years you did feel some sort of attachment, otherwise it shouldn't bother you at all. I am sorry you feel like this...maybe next year? HEY why don't you send a copy of this blog to 900 classmates and see what sort of response you get back? I bet if yoy do that close to when you would have it next year people would come! SEND IT THEY WILL COME:DDD

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You know, Sassys,...

I think it got to me because I realized that I've now lived here for 33 years, including the college years. While many people go to a school in a town and decide they just want out, I'd moved around so much that I kind of latched onto the place and said that was enough. And every once in awhile I run into someone who I'm just talking to and find out I actually graduated with them, but didn't know them, and it freaks me out. One would think I'd know way more people in my adopted hometown than I do; that's a shame.

So, maybe I was hoping to connect with people I couldn't connect with all those years ago, establish relationships, business or otherwise, with people who had some tie to the area. And it didn't happen, and that's just too bad.

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I think you may have regretted not going more

than actually going and realizing that hardly anyone showed up and those that did, you really didn't know.
What I freaked out about was---900 STUDENTS in your graduating class? Thats alot of students in one class...you cant possibly have known even half of them...really , thats alot of kids. Those are university college numbers for graduation.
I went to high school in the city and our class was only like 200 kids mabey. Out here when my girls graduated, there were like 104 students when my oldest graduated and 116 when my youngest graduated in a town with a population of 10,000 to 11,000.

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Odd thing, Ammorton,...

is that I wrote the woman who did most of the work trying to pull it all together and it turns out she decided to not even try to come to the happy hour, she was so disgusted. And I can't blame her for any of it.

I didn't know half the kids; truthfully, I probably only really knew 100 of them, though I ended up kind of known for some interesting things along the way. Then again, if there were 50 black students at the school when I was there it was a fluke; it's different now, but still not close to 15%. But you can imagine how I had to try to get used to such sizes, as I came from a small school in northern Maine that was shared with military kids for high school, of which I was one.

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My grad class was 44...

... I went to school in a small town --my grduating class had 44 students, and most of them were the people I attended K thru 12 with. When you spend 13 years with the same 44 people, they become like family -- and you know the way a family can get. A lot of love -- but a lot of conflict!

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As you said, Ken,...

at least all of y'all knew each other, probably knew all the families, and had a reason for having people come back. Have you gone to any reunions?

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I didn't go to my reunion

it was a 20 year reunion, and I didn't find out about it in time. They had no way to know how to get ahold of me. I signed up on Classmates.com and that was how I found out about it in the first place. I have since chatted with a couple of people I went to school with. I hope they have another and I want to go if they have one.

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Hope you enjoy, Ammorton,...

I think I've been to my last, which isn't fair since I've never gone to my first. I did go to my 10th college reunion, and I think I'll go to the next one, though I have 3 years to go.

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Thought about but never...

went to my school's 50th Anniversary. What would you say at one? We are all different now, than when we were kids.

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You don't mean, Hutts,...

your class' 50th reunion, do you? Or are you saying the 50th anniversary of the school being there? Actually, this year will be the 40th anniversary of my high school's opening, and I have yet to hear if they're doing anything for it.

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The school...

itself! We're big on that sort of thing.

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